I have declared the year 2015 The Year of You. Make this year all about you. Your needs, wants, goals, and dreams. Learn to feel the fear, and take the risks anyway. Find the things you are passionate about and that make you feel alive. It doesn’t have to be some big adventure across the world. It can be something as simple as starting your own yoga practice, cooking a meal in your kitchen three times a week, or running that half marathon (OK, 5Ks are just as fun:)). The goal for this year is for you to find what brings you joy and not be afraid to put yourself first. Learn to say yes to the things that make you happy, and learn to say no or even goodbye to the things that no longer serve you. This is not permission to ignore your loved ones and be selfish in a “the world revolves around me” attitude. What I mean is, if you are not taking care of you, making sure you are happy, showing yourself compassion, liking and loving who you are, then how can you possibly be expected to bring joy into other’s lives? How can you fully show others love and kindness if you are not showing yourself love and kindness?
As we get further from the 1st of the year, we also get further from the excitement and hype of setting our new year’s resolutions. Motivation, energy, and well-meaning intentions that this year will be the year that you finally stick with your goals begin to fizzle out. It can be hard to stay on track and hold yourself accountable. But that is exactly what we have to do, hold ourselves accountable. Nobody else will do this for you.
I want to share three tips that I have learned over this past year when setting my own goals. I hope these simple but powerful steps will help guide you along your wellness journey this year.
- Know your why. Give your goals purpose. So you want to lose weight. Why? Increase your health? Decrease risk of cancers? Decrease risk of diabetes. You want to switch careers. Why? Increase salary? Better work environment? Define the purpose of your goals and intentions that you have set for yourself. You will be more likely to succeed when you have a purpose and a direction. Having a why gives your goals more authenticity and a deeper meaning than just wanting to look good. When you accomplish your goals, you will feel more happy and confident than before, I promise. Having a why is also a great way to help keep you on track when the going gets tough. You will have days when you just want to opt out of making that meal, going for a walk, or working toward a new career. Always come back to the purpose of your intentions and why you set certain goals for yourself in the first place.
- Consistency. It takes time to develop a habit, whether it’s a good one or a bad one. Changes don’t happen overnight. Think of the work and effort you put into your goals this year as a practice. Kind of like a yoga practice. It’s called a practice because we are always learning, growing, and facing new challenges. Every time you step onto the mat you learn to listen to your body and give it what it needs. But to increase your strength, both physical and mental, on the mat you have to show up and, well, practice! I want you to take this same approach every day with your own goals. It took time to develop habits that may be effecting your health and life negatively, and it will take time to develop habits that increase your overall health and happiness. This is where being consistent comes in handy. You have to be committed to the change you want to make and repeat the new behavior everyday.
- No excuses. This is my favorite one! It is so easy to make excuses to not do something. I believe it is one of the top reasons that things just simply do not get done. We are masters at making up valid excuses when we feel like procrastinating. And the kicker is that these excuses we come up with actually make us feel better about our decision to NOT accomplish a task or goal. It is so easy to make excuses when we are the only ones holding ourselves accountable. When you catch yourself coming up with reasons why it’s okay to miss that workout, have that sugary sweet, or anything that sways you from your original goal, I want you to go back to your why. Because I bet the reason you set your original goals in the first place is because it would somehow better your health, happiness, and life. So stick to it and remember, you’ll only get what you put into it.
I hope you find these helpful. Please feel free to leave a comment below and share how you stay on track with your goals! Better yet, feel free to share your goals!